Episode Description
Each episode is made up of three anonymously sourced questions from you, the listeners! Zibby reads the questions and Tracey answers them. Tracey ends each episode with a sex tip or sex challenge of the week.
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More About SexTok with Zibby and Tracey
The show description is, this weekly show pairs two mismatched women discussing relationship and sex topics we all typically whisper about, Laugh Out Loud, funny, Irreverent British International sex expert and author of 17 books, Tracy Cox answers questions from the audience posed by the Squeamish Mama of four award-winning literary podcaster Zibby, Who blushes often. The length of each episode is 20 to 30 minutes long and they don’t use explicit language, but they do talk about sex, so you can determine if it’s kid ear friendly for your family. This series is ongoing with new episodes available on Mondays.
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Introduction to Zibby & SexTok
I am Zibby Owens and I am the host of the podcast Moms don’t have time to read books and also SexTok, which I co-host with Tracy Cox, who is a sex therapist.
How SexTok Started
Okay. So I started my whole brand, which has become moms Don’t have time to… with moms, don’t have time to read books And then I started expanding. Then I had a show called Moms Don’t Have Time to Lose Weight. When I started to gain lots of weight. And then I had Moms don’t have time to get sick. Moms don’t have time to travel. I was gonna do all these retreats and all this stuff, and I did a couple anthologies and they were called, Moms don’t have time to, and moms don’t have time to have kids.
And they were each divided into five categories. One of the categories and one of the anthologies was, Moms don’t have time to have sex. And one vision I had was that I would do a podcast on each of those verticals. So when I interviewed Tracy about her book, Great Sex Starts at 50. I was like, You need to do my show Moms don’t have time to have sex. Like, you should just host that show and that’ll be the moms don’t have time to have sex show. And she was like, Well, I wouldn’t wanna do without you. You know? So I was like, me. I was like, Why would I do that show? You know, I can’t even say any of the words out loud.
Being uncomfortable and blushing or whatever, that I’m like the last person to do this. And she was like, No, no, that’ll be great. So I came up with this idea of the structure of the show, which would be three anonymously sourced questions from the audience. And I would just read them and she would answer them.
And then there’d be one sex tip or sex challenge or something at the end with like a tiny bit of banter at the beginning. And I mean, when I say I can barely get through some of these episodes, you know, I, I’m regularly saying to her, Why am I doing this show ? But it’s so fun and I adore her, like we have so much fun.
I’ve never even met her in person. We’ve, done 55 episodes I mean, 55, half an hour chunks. That’s a lot of time with somebody. I think it might be more time than I spent with my husband this year. So yeah, that’s where it came from. It was originally called Moms Don’t have time to have sex.
But then we went a little viral on TikTok. We had an account called at Zibby and Tracy. And there were these little clips which were beyond mortifying, or like a picture of me as I am now at my desk at my microphone, but over my head, the text was like, why can’t I have an orgasm? And I was like, literally my social media manager put it on TikTok.
She’s like Zibby. There are a million views. And I look at it and it’s like, Why can’t I have an orgasm, I was like, Are you kidding me? Like, you can’t put this. It’s me. Like, anyway, it was so embarrassing. It got to the point where, I would hang out with my son and his friend would be like, You showed up on my for you page on TikTok today.
And I was like, uh… So anyway, so we changed the name away from Moms don’t have time to have Sex to SexTok with Zibby and Tracy for that reason, and also to increase the appeal to men and non moms who wanted to listen.
The Dynamic Between Zibby & Tracey
One man just wrote in anonymously and was like, Could you, could you see if Civic could be more professional by not giggling all the. I was like, That’s my whole thing,
It’s like she’s so comfortable and I’m not. Anyway, it’s a funny dynamic. We have the two of us. I love it. I feel like it’s a normal dynamic. Not everyone can be super comfortable talking about sex.
What to Expect from SexTok
So can you tell me what do you want people to get out of sex talk? It’s ended up being not just about sex, like the sex Act, but also relationships.
Like my husband has been spending too much time with a colleague at work. I’m a little nervous, like, What should I do? Or, We’re about to be separated for 10 weeks. How should my husband and I keep up our intimacy or, so I think they should take out of it that there are some new ideas they’re gonna hear.
Tracy is always talking about all the Toys and things like that, Anyway, so you’ll probably hear about some of that stuff. You’ll learn about issues that other people are facing, which I find really interesting. Like what are other people thinking about? Oh, this is a problem. And you’ll probably feel a little less embarrassed about any issues you may think you alone are facing.
Somebody’s probably written in about it and we have an answer for it, or we at least have a debate about what to do about it. So I think it should Help your connections with other people.
The Vibe of SexTok
It’s actually one it was an honoree for the web award, which is the best of the internet out of 14,000 entries. It was an honoree for social humor. Like you’ve gotten all these humor nominations. So I would say the tone is. It’s funny, but it’s also informative.
Tracey’s super prepared and she’s got lots of studies and statistics and, and you know, it’s really based on whatever science fact data. So it’s a mix of entertainment and education.
Zibby’s Favorite Episode
We had a really long debate about cheating. That might have been one of my favorites, You know what, When is it okay? Is it okay? I don’t know. That was kind of thought provoking, so maybe that was one of my favorites.
SexTok & Little Ears
I don’t know about that. I might not put this on in the car. When you’re in the car with the kids.
I think I would save this for headphones while you’re doing the laundry or something.
It’s good for a lot of people especially moms, with questions like: I’m a new mom, or how long should I wait? Or It hurts, or, you know, I’d have, I’m so tired and I just don’t have the energy for sex anymore.
And like, my husband wants to have sex all the time, or I wanna have sex and my husband is my, you know, so there’s a lot, there’s a lot of content for moms in the show, so definitely listen, but put some headphones.
Where to Find SexTok, Zibby & Tracey
Tracy’s site is tracycox.com. She has written about 17 different books about sex. She’s a sex expert. She has a lot of advice on her website, so you should check that out.
We have a website ourselves. It’s called sextokpod.com and you will find a little more about us, but also where you can put in your anonymous questions and we read everyone and we really do choose from the questions. So feel free to put in something you are too embarrassed to ask anyone on the planet and we will talk about it and treat it with kindness and respect and probably 16 other people have written in about it. So don’t feel bad.
